Marriage is only for the children, stupid
April 07, 2013 12:00 AM | 2051 views | 3 3 comments | 3 3 recommendations | email to a friend | print

It seems every other news story these days is about gay marriage, gay rights, gay this and gay that. And now with the Supreme Court preparing their judgments on our rites of marriage, the future of marriage hangs in the balance. I hope they have wisdom; I hope they have great wisdom.

Because marriage is only about kids.

Yes, that’s right. Marriage is only for the children; marriage is all about the kids. That is all and it is simple. It’s the children, stupid.

Contrary to much of the debate and commentary, marriage is not about love. Nor is marriage about sex. It is not about companionship, benefits, soul mates, insurance or any of the other selfish things folks think they have a right to extract from it. The fact is that they have no rights.

Marriage is a rite but it is not a right for those who marry. It is a rite solely for our children. Children exclusively own all the rights from marriage.

For someone to demand they have a right to extract their own selfish benefits from the rites of marriage is to wrongly extract those benefits from the innocent children to which they belong.

Those that take the vows of marriage at their wedding rite do seek a “perfect” marriage which would be one with love, companionship, a life-long soul mate and yes, sex. And though those benefits of a perfect marriage could be deemed as “selfish benefits,” they are still benefits that are mainly for our children, as our children will benefit the most from a perfect marriage.

Children need all the love and support they can get; they need their mother and father, together, in a perfect marriage. And even if some of our kids are not fully able to enjoy their pleasures resultant from their exclusive rights of a perfect marriage, they need to at least reap the reassuring and supportive effects from knowing that the rights of marriage are purely, innocently and totally theirs, and only theirs.

Those that are demanding their “rite” to extract their own selfish benefits from marriage (and from our children) argue that all marriages do not produce children and many end in divorce. Partly from that reasoning, they claim a right to marriage.

That is a selfish argument indeed and selfish to the detriment of our children. However, the answer to that selfish argument is simple:

One can, without damaging a child’s pure and innocent understanding that marriage is solely about them, easily explain to a 5-year old about a marriage that fails or one that does not produce children.

Try explaining to a youngster how a homosexual marriage is solely for 5-year olds and their kindergarten buddies. It can’t be done.

Steve Marcinko


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April 08, 2013
What an archaic opinion. Marriage in ALL forms is for the children as well. Due to the divorce rate it is very easy to see that it is NOT for the children but for the desires of the parents and usually infidelity (currently). Two dads can be just as great of parents as two moms..etc. It would be better for "the children" to preach to them love and acceptance of all relationships. Above all, teach them understanding.
Richard Robinson
April 07, 2013
So... if a man and woman have no plans to conceive children, they needn't bother getting married.
April 12, 2013
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