A: God would only be upset at you if you didn’t do anything to resolve your doubts and become stronger in your faith.
In other words, some people (I’ve found) almost enjoy having doubts, and they use them as an excuse to keep God out of their lives. Instead of seeking answers to their questions, they like to parade their doubts before others, and allow their doubts to eat away at their faith. But others treat doubt the way it should be treated — turning it over to God, and using it as an opportunity to grow stronger in their faith.
I often think of Thomas, who was one of Jesus’ closest disciples. After Jesus was crucified, Thomas’ faith was almost destroyed, and he felt hopeless. When others reported that Jesus had been raised from the dead, Thomas refused to believe it (and as a result he came to be known as “doubting Thomas”). But Thomas was willing to have his doubts answered, and so he stayed with the other disciples — and was present the next time Jesus appeared. His doubts fled, and he immediately responded, “My Lord and my God!” (John 20:28).
Don’t let circumstances or anything else fill you with doubt. Instead, make the Bible (which is God’s Word) your daily companion. Then when doubts come you can overcome them with the truth of God’s Word. The Bible says, “Every word of God is flawless; he is a shield to those who take refuge in him” (Proverbs 30:5).
Q: How can I get my husband to believe in Jesus? He’s a good person, and I think he believes that’s all it will take to get him into heaven. But whenever I try to tell him he needs to give his life to Jesus, we just end up arguing. — Mrs. K.F.
A: My wife, Ruth, liked to quote a homely old saying that she’d heard once: “More flies are caught with honey than with vinegar” — then she’d add, “and more people are drawn to Jesus by love than by arguing.” And it’s true.
Don’t misunderstand me; I’m grateful for your concern for your husband’s eternal salvation. But only God can open the eyes of his heart and help him see his need of Jesus Christ. That’s why your first responsibility is to pray consistently for your husband, asking God to move in his heart by the Holy Spirit. God can do what we cannot do — and that includes convicting someone of their sin and drawing them to Christ. Jesus said, “No one can come to me unless the Father who sent me draws him, and I will raise him up at the last day” (John 6:44).
In addition, ask God to help you be a witness by your life. What difference has Jesus Christ made in the way you live? Does your husband see Christ in you? Is the fruit of the Spirit evident to him? The Bible says, “But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control” (Galatians 5:22-23). Make these your goal.
Often the hardest people to talk to about our faith are those who are nearest to us. But God loves your husband, so trust Him to answer your prayers — in His time.
Send your queries to “My Answer,” c/o Billy Graham, Billy Graham Evangelistic Association, 1 Billy Graham Parkway, Charlotte, N.C., 28201; call 1-(877) 2-GRAHAM, or visit www.billygraham.org.