A: You may find it hard to believe right now, but God is even more concerned about you and your problems than you are. This is why the Bible says, "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you" (1 Peter 5:7).
It's often been said that God answers our prayers in one of three ways: Yes, no, and wait. There is much truth in this, because God knows our needs far better than we do. Sometimes, for example, we want Him to do something for us, but our prayers are self-centered or thoughtless, and God says "No" because He knows our motives are wrong. Or sometimes God says, "Wait! Not yet!" because He sees the whole picture, and He knows what's best for us, both now and in the future. And sometimes, of course, God says "Yes."
But I've discovered that God sometimes answers our prayers in a fourth way: By showing us how to solve the problem. In other words, sometimes we become the answer to our own prayers! We always want God to solve our problems instantly, but sometimes God wants us to deal with them on our own, as He gives us wisdom.
I don't know what problems you're facing right now, but God does and He wants to help you overcome them, because He loves you. Pray for wisdom... seek advice from people you trust... and then, little by little, do all you can to solve them. The Bible says, "I will go before you and will level the mountains" (Isaiah 45:2).
Q: My husband and I fight about money all the time. I hate it, and yet we no sooner say we're going to stop than something else comes up, and we start all over again. We both want it solved, but how do we get out of this? It's ruining our marriage. — Mrs. C.G.
A: You've already taken the first step by admitting you have a problem and want to find a solution. And you can, because God doesn't want money to destroy you, and He wants to help you get it under control.
Let me suggest three steps you might take to bring this problem under control. First, ask yourselves this question: How important is money to us — not only money, but also the things it can buy? Is it the most important thing in our lives? You'll probably protest that it isn't, but are you sure? For example, if it's ruining your marriage (as you indicate), doesn't that suggest money has become more important to you than your relationship? The Bible warns, "For the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil" (1 Timothy 6:10).
The second question is this: How important should money be to you? Money shouldn't be your master but your servant. In other words, what is your priority in life? Make God — not money or things — your priority, by turning to Christ and asking Him to become the center and foundation of your family, and your finances.
Finally, what practical steps can you take? Get a budget and stick to it. Avoid new debt; cut up your credit cards or lock them away if you can't control them. Above all, follow the Bible's command: "Keep your lives free from the love of money and be content with what you have" (Hebrews 13:5).
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