Fatherhood a journey well worth taking
by Donald Conkey
June 11, 2014 09:01 PM | 1258 views | 0 0 comments | 3 3 recommendations | email to a friend | print
Sunday is Father’s Day. With that said, now let’s ask ‘just what is fatherhood?’

I think it is a gift from mankind’s creator, Jefferson’s ‘Supreme Judge of the World,’ a choice gift that provides purpose and meaning for life, with an abundance of joy and happiness, along with occasional bits of grief and sorrow, to the man who comprehends and accepts the role of fatherhood and dedicates his life to the family he fathers.

True fatherhood begins with the marriage of one man and one woman who understand their divinely defined roles of man and woman, of husband and wife, of father and mother. On our kitchen wall is a framed proclamation that defines these roles. It’s titled “The Family, A Proclamation to the World.”

It was published in 1996 in response to the growing challenges against the family and marriage worldwide. Its first paragraph states: “marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God and that the family is central to the Creator’s plan for the eternal destiny of His children.”

It continues: “Husband and wife have a solemn responsibility to love and care for each other and for their children. ‘Children are a heritage of the Lord.’ (Psalms 127:3) Parents have a sacred duty to rear their children in love and righteousness, to provide for their physical and spiritual needs, to teach them to love and serve one another, to observe the commandments of God and to be law-abiding citizens wherever they live. Husband and wives — mothers and fathers — will be held responsible before God for the discharge of these obligations.”

Continuing, it states: “By divine design, fathers are to preside over their families in love and righteousness and are responsible to provide the necessities of life and protection for their families. Mothers are primarily responsible for the nurture of their children. In these sacred responsibilities, fathers and mothers are obligated to help one another as equal partners.”

Having married several grandchildren in recent years, I followed the counsel of Moses as recorded in Exodus 18:20 to “teach them the ordinances and laws of marriage and the work they must do” in their marriages. I created a special book for each couple that includes this proclamation, a copy of the Ten Commandments, Gordon B. Hinckley’s Ten Virtues and a poster outlining Vaughn J. Featherstone’s 14 points of Fatherhood.

It includes a family pedigree chart and an ancestral chart dating back to 1623. These family charts will help these new families better understand how they connect to their ancestors and how they fit in with something far greater than just themselves.

This book was my effort to help my grandchildren build a solid foundation under their new marriages based on solid eternal principles. It also responds to the growing problems being generated by our ever-growing secular society and helps instill a little sanity and common sense into a society where the God defined role of fatherhood is being redefined negatively in the foundational fabric of American society.

To the father who has bathed his children and changed their diapers, who has read to them and watched them begin school, graduate, marry and bring home a grandchild, fatherhood is everlasting joy and happiness. True fatherhood is hard work but is more rewarding than any other calling on earth.

When a father reaches my age, he knows his children and has experienced all the surprises fatherhood brings, including grief and sorrow, as when a child breaks his heart, or when he lays a child in a grave and his soul cries out “Why me, Lord.” At such moments, nothing will soothe a father’s bitter grief but faith. I have felt that grief.

Life’s greatest joys come from within the walls of one’s home, where fathers and mothers are one and where the father accepts the responsibility of fatherhood and leads his family in righteousness — obedient to God’s commandments.

The home is where the real joys and contentment of life are found — in great abundance. True fatherhood is leading a righteous family; it is holding family councils; it is making time for each child; it is helping each child explore God’s creations and teaching them of God’s love for them, and how to love Him. It is teaching them, by example, how to communicate with Him in prayer.

The fatherhood journey is filled with challenges, awe, sorrows, joys, happiness and an abundance of love — it’s a journey well worth taking. Fathers, enjoy your journey, and this special day.

Donald Conkey is a retired agricultural economist in Woodstock.

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